The Giver
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argues for
family survival
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argues for
physical survival
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argues for
tribal survival
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Benefits
Passionate, warm, caring
Drawbacks
Possessive, self-absorbed
Benefits
Details-oriented, connected
Drawbacks
Gullible, shameful, easily exploited
Emotions work like a jury of the three arguments, which combine in beats. Eristic beats are fast, like a heartbeat.
The Giver leads with love and lands on guilt to form the characteristic beat of devotion.
The Giver uses love and guilt primarily through the devotion beat, making for a warm, devoted, and community-oriented archetype.
Devotion makes for a family- and society-conscious feeler.
Devotion cuts out the world argument, fear, allowing two people to bond without real-world demands making it so. Relationships based on devotion are strong and stable, surviving changes in the world.
Devotion spans from love to guilt, abbreviating fear.
Devotion covers all three internalizing emotions: love, fear and guilt. Because it 'skips over' fear, it effectively ignores the world argument. Because of this, devotion tends to be one of the most irrational emotions, ignoring facts and world-realities.
Devotion mirrors the all-externalizing contempt, which also jumps from the self to society argument, skipping the world argument.
These are the beats the Giver is good at.
These are the beats the Giver struggles with.
These are the beats the Giver more rarely uses.
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The base emotions are like underlying survival needs.
Hatred fulfills disgust and anger, for example.
Duress fulfills fear, guilt and disgust, leaving love, anger and pride unfulfilled.
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Attachment/envy/zeal cultures are typically family- or individualism-oriented and hard-working.
Devotion/contempt cultures have strict rules, devoted followers and a disdain for outsiders.
Satisfaction culture, usually for smaller groups, focuses on avoiding fear, guilt, disgust and anger.
The Giver is great at fitting in to the devotion/contempt pattern:
Devotion/contempt cultures have simpler-but-stricter rules.
The Giver will fit in better with devotion/contempt cultures. They may fit in too much, agreeing by default with the values of the culture.
The Giver's coping emotion of contempt covers the other half of the emotional spectrum. This creates some problems for the Giver. When they cope, a devotion/contempt culture will completely endorse it. When the contempt is appropriate, this works out great. When it's not, it may put the Giver in a position where they externalize against an individual or group when they otherwise wouldn't.
The Giver doesn't fit in as well with the attachment/envy/zeal societal pattern:
The Giver pattern doesn't fit in as well with attachment/envy/zeal.
The Giver may have a harder time getting ahead in this type of culture, which focuses more on family involvement and individualism. With conscious practice, the Giver can focus on feeling more attachment and zeal to overcome this. Having friends of the Artist and Observer archetypes can help here.
Since the coping emotion shares the same arguments (self/world/society) in inverted polarities, it effectively pauses the characteristic emotion, providing relief from overwhelming intensity.
The coping emotion serves as a shadow archetype, characterizing the feeler in periods of acute emotional stress.
Contempt, the combination of disgust and pride, serves as the primary coping strategy for Givers overwhelmed by their characteristic emotion of devotion.
Contempt is high-energy and all-externalizing, including both externalizing emotions besides anger. In a lot of ways, contempt accomplishes what anger accomplishes without using anger.
Shunning: Since the Giver is characterized by giving, cutting another person out of their life often serves as a severe punishment.
Escape: Sometimes the Giver themselves is the one who feels a need to exit the group.
Image-consciousness: The Giver's self-definition can come to be shaped by how the group sees them.
The Giver may revisit ideas or individuals that trigger disgust and pride in order to cope with overwhelming love and guilt.
The Giver is naturally good at compassion and fairness which work like love and guilt.
The Giver should aim to develop discretion and diligence, which work to moderate love and guilt.
The hardest-to-develop virtue for The Giver is honor, corresponding to their blind spot.
Virtues act like the opposite of their emotion—coping made conscious and disciplined. For The Giver, developing honor actively balances their unengaged anger argument.